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Well, in your case it was clearly traumatic and it looks like you had some hopes. My case is the exact opposite, I'm not holding on to any hopes and my feelings don't bother me much. It's like a vaccine, you know - having a small dose of the pathogen to prevent an actual illness.

Well, how much time do you say you think about them everyday?

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+3 answers in: “I've been having a one-sided crush on the same person for 6 years and I don't want it to go away because I'm afraid the next one might be more traumatic than this one. Am I being irrational?”

That is certainly possible but I choose to avoid the risk even at the expense of a possible good outcome. I have no conscious control over my future romantic attractions and don't want to open up to traumatizing myself once again. My current situation is not nearly as bad as it could be otherwise.

Let me tell you a story. I had a crush a long time ago. It didn't last six years, but it was traumatizing to me. He's all I thought about that year. He gave me indication that he liked me, when he really didn't. So I spent all of my time chasing after someone who wasn't even WORTH it. I wish I spent that year of my life doing something else. One day, you're going to wish the same thing. You have no control over what happens in the future. But are you going to stay in the same place forever because you're afraid? No. You're going to move on to bigger and better things like you deserve. The same applies here.

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+3 answers in: “I've been having a one-sided crush on the same person for 6 years and I don't want it to go away because I'm afraid the next one might be more traumatic than this one. Am I being irrational?”

Thanks but I don't motivated to break this chain. She lives quite far from me and we haven't been in touch for two years at all. Having feelings for her isn't fun but it's not traumatizing either. On the other hand, who can promise my next attraction won't be way more hurtful?

I understand this fear. However, I'm reading that you're the only one who loses here. Being chained to someone who you can't talk to is the worst. Instead of thinking about the worst possible outcome, reframe your thoughts to think of it in a better light. What if the next attraction turns out to be the person you marry? And they're everything you've ever wanted? And all this time you've spent hurt is now being healed with them? Try to think about that. You've been very strong and loyal to be dedicated to this person for so long. But nothing will come but more heartache if you are fixated on them.

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+3 answers in: “I've been having a one-sided crush on the same person for 6 years and I don't want it to go away because I'm afraid the next one might be more traumatic than this one. Am I being irrational?”

I've been having a one-sided crush on the same person for 6 years and I don't want it to go away because I'm afraid the next one might be more traumatic than this one. Am I being irrational?

I do advise moving on. Not only are you making room for a potentially healthy relationship to come into your life, but you are also breaking the chain that has you tethered to this person. After six years, it won't be easy, I know this. But you will feel free when you put your work in. I wish you the best in this, and may you find someone who makes your heart happy.

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Hello, everyone. I have an announcement to make. For personal reasons, I am leaving ask.fm. Whether I come back or not, I'm not sure. I feel like I owe everyone a deeper explanation, but I need you to trust me when I say that I need to take this action. If I don't come back, I want everyone here to know that you've made my time amazing and fun. It wouldn't have been the same without you being a part of it. I wish all of you the best in life, and I know that you all will accomplish amazing feats.
Farewell...

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Who is your favorite YouTuber?

There is this duo of two lovely gentlemen: Dan Avidan and Arin Hanson. They are known as the Game Grumps. I don't know what it is, but I've started watching them a LOT more since quarantine began. Not only are they hilarious, but they also delve into some pretty deep topics on the show. I love the way they open up, especially Dan, who has shared his personal story with mental illness on the show previously. Dan is also truly inspirational and listening to him will make you want to soar, reach your dreams, and be good to others along the way. Watching one of their videos feels like you're there, hanging out with them, sharing in both the laughs and struggle. On many days when I'm feeling down, I put on one of their videos for a laugh. They never disappoint. Both of them are amazing guys and I could only recommend giving them a chance. I personally recommend their Katamari Damacy playthrough (link below).
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Blackygirl
Thank you for the free space.
Today, my dad took me to get some frozen yogurt. I sat on a bench near the sea. Somebody was strumming on their acoustic guitar in the background. And for the first time, I felt so at peace. Between the waves of sea, the jam of the acoustic guitar... it was so serene. We took a walk around the pier. And walking out of that park left me with joy bubbling inside of me. I guess this means I need to take more walks around nature. I just wanted to share this positive moment.

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Thank you for the free space

Today my dad took me to get some frozen yogurt

Do you have any book recommendations?

I just finished Before I Fall and it was nothing short of phenomenal. I could say so much and give so many praises, but I would like for anyone who hasn't experienced the story yet to read/see it for themselves. I especially recommend it to those who are in their middle and highschool years, as it can change your perspective on life itself. The movie adaptation is coming to Netflix on Monday, and I'm very excited for it!

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Do you have any book recommendations

So you do things without considering or caring about the consequences right?

Quite the opposite, actually. I think that's been my whole life. I overthink. I've let people talk poorly about me right in front of me because I knew that my anger would make me raise my fists. I have to be silent or else I will lose myself. I feel like I face that battle everyday, and I'm afraid that I will lose that war eventually. The only time I don't consider is when I'm infuriated or I think that taking that action will lead to the happiness of myself or others. My overthinking has created the war that's going on inside of me. I still think of things I would say today to those people who bullied me, even after five years. And even though I have every capability of saying those words to them, I don't because of the consequence that will bring.

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So you do things without considering or caring about the consequences right

What are some stuff that you don't know why or how you did them and still can't find an explanation for them?

Back in 2018, I was working on a novel called Profound Light. There is an event among writers called Camp Nanowrimo where you can set goals for yourself. I didn't think I was going to do much, so I set it for 15,000 words to write in July. Everyday I worked for hours on end. I finished the 15,000 goal in days. So I set it higher as I went. 20,000, 25, 30... 50. Yeah, I wrote 50,000+ words. I still don't know how I did it, haha. It's funny too. In Camp Nanowrimo, we have groups called cabins where we can converse. Someone there said something like, "Has anyone else noticed the dude (me) who's almost to 100K? Like, how? What limited edition energy drink gives you that kind of skill?" I still chuckle at that every now and then, because I'm still wondering the same thing. I am proud of myself though. You go, Past Me!

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How did your day start?"

I wrote for about two hours. My memoir came first. I wrote about a lot of hurtful events and my stomach felt awful afterwards. I proceeded to work on a lighter story that helped clear my mood a bit. But it was even better when I hopped on Animal Crossing. The villager Pompom has become one of my favorites with her positive attitude and cheery personality. The letter she sent me today... it made me feel a lot better, and I think she might be up there with Bones as a favorite villager.

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How did your day start

What gets you into a creative mood? Are you reading anything over quarantine? Are you looking for something to read? What character dynamics do you best enjoy in stories and media? If you want, share something creative with us! As always, thanks in advance for your responses!

Erin Wolf
Creativity is really unpredictable, but music helps me a lot. I usually try to make a music video in my mind when listening to music and that's how a lot of my stories and characters come to fruition.
I haven't read in a bit. I just haven't been in the mood to. It's weird since I was on a reading hit last month. I couldn't even bring myself to read a book that I put on hold for weeks from the library.
I like close friendships in stories. That's what I've been writing about lately in my short stories. It's one reason why I like Steven Universe. Some people complain about the filler episodes, but I love seeing Steven bond with the townspeople and form friendships with them. It's a nice balance with the story-focused episodes.
This is a good series of questions by the way, thanks for asking!

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What gets you into a creative mood

Are you reading anything over quarantine Are

Share something. ?

Blackygirl
(Thanks for the free space.)
For a long time, I've been wanting to write a memoir. Just a recount of everything that's happened in my life so far. Due to recent events, I started. Did you ever think of your past as being one thing? Whether it's all bad or all good, you thought of your life as this general unfortunate story perhaps? I think this is my case. But now that I delve deeply into my memories, there's so much more to be uncovered. I've discovered so much about myself that I didn't know before. I see so much beauty in my past that I didn't realize was there to begin with. It's been a great experience so far, and I'm glad to be writing it. I'm writing chronologically, and today I've gotten to my 7th grade year. This is the part that I've been scared to write about. I commonly refer to this as the worst year of my life. I didn't even get to the worst parts yet, and I got butterflies in my stomach just writing the beginning. It's daunting to revisit a point in my past that was so painful and life-changing. But that's why I'm doing this, to find answers and deal with what I've avoided so long. They say that the hardest thing to do is worth doing, and I'll try to keep that in mind as I delve even deeper.
This song below... somehow it encompasses everything I feel as I write my memoir. A truly beautiful, yet sorrowful piece.
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It totally is. But its also really bad, when you at the end of such a game...just like the feeling you get, when you finished a real good book.

ʟᴀᴅʏ ᴇʟᴏQᴜᴇɴᴛ
Yes! Gosh, that feeling is something. I remember feeling that way with ATLA, Bojack Horseman, Little Witch Academia... It's not the best feeling, but I think it's necessary for balance.

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It totally is But its also really bad when you at the end of such a gamejust
+2 answers in: “And on what console you play it? =) Sounds fun! x3 I like Yoshi's Island as well. Me? I am currently playing Final Fantasy XIII - it's pretty fun as well. And I fell in love with Vanille! She is just too lovely and such a adorable, cute ray of sunshine! x3 XD”

I am already addicted after such nice characters and the whole storyline. I definetely want to play the other Final Fantasy Games as well. It's such a cool world to discover. =)

ʟᴀᴅʏ ᴇʟᴏQᴜᴇɴᴛ
Awesome! Don't you love that feeling of finding a new franchise that you enjoy? It's one of the best feelings. :)

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+2 answers in: “And on what console you play it? =) Sounds fun! x3 I like Yoshi's Island as well. Me? I am currently playing Final Fantasy XIII - it's pretty fun as well. And I fell in love with Vanille! She is just too lovely and such a adorable, cute ray of sunshine! x3 XD”

And on what console you play it? =) Sounds fun! x3 I like Yoshi's Island as well. Me? I am currently playing Final Fantasy XIII - it's pretty fun as well. And I fell in love with Vanille! She is just too lovely and such a adorable, cute ray of sunshine! x3 XD

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I've been playing Animal Crossing on the Switch. My brother's favorite game of all time is Yoshi's Island which is what got me interested in it :) And Final Fantasy seems like such a cool series! Probably something you spend a lot of time on though. My brother had Final Fantasy 4 and it had such an interesting storyline. I hope you have fun with playing it!

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