The price we pay as men for allowing our dominance-based culture of masculinity to silence us is deep loneliness and disconnection. We're so busy hiding those aspects of ourselves the don't fit "rigid masculine norms" that we become strangers to ourselves, our partners, our kids. What happens when we instead think into terms of a wide range of masculinities, all equally valid? We can all find the version of masculinity that fits for us. Self-alienation problem solved.