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[–]alpha_rat_fight_ 8813 points8814 points  (163 children)

I wasn’t ready to receive these feels.

[–]unreadysoup8643 8359 points8360 points 2 (115 children)

        She was not alone.

Jesus. Sometimes the shortest sentences hit the worst.

[–]capron 1894 points1895 points  (25 children)

Sometimes they show the best of humanity too.

[–]MyNameIsNitrox 585 points586 points  (10 children)

Small things can mean so much.

[–]capron 284 points285 points  (2 children)

I agree 100%.

[–]americanhound04 178 points179 points  (1 child)

I’m gonna need 110% out of you. Step it up.

[–]DurandelTheSword 49 points50 points  (1 child)

Tolkien knew before everyone else.

[–]SwimsDeep[🍰] 151 points152 points  (12 children)

The best of humanity in response to the worst of humanity. Prayers for healing to all involved.

[–]RhaenSyth 55 points56 points  (11 children)

No one can ever hate a medic or firefighter. I think that’s universally agreed. They are the best of humanity.

[–]emt103 33 points34 points  (4 children)

Well my last patient had some choice words for me. But usually yeah they like us.

[–]sparks1990 379 points380 points  (53 children)

A coworker of mine lost his mother in a house fire earlier this year and his Facebook post broke my heart:

“My parent’s house burned down this morning. My mom died.”

I tried to read it to my wife and I just broke down in tears. The brevity of it just caught me so off guard. I’m so used to seeing posts announcing a death being so much longer and formal. “It’s with great sadness we of announce the passing of...”. But the “my mom died” just hit different.

[–]Sardonnicus 258 points259 points  (40 children)

It's hard to describe what loosing a loved one suddenly and unexpectedly feels like. I always thought I understood the definition of the world "final", but it wasn't until my brother suddenly passed away that I was awaken to what "final" really means. You keep thinking that they are not gone - that you'll get a call from them - they will show up - they will email you - they will text you. But your brain can't process the reality that none of this will ever happen again. Final.

[–]ABookishSort 99 points100 points  (10 children)

I’m sorry you lost your brother.

My husband is the youngest of five boys who all inherited polycystic kidney disease from their Dad. We lost one brother in 1999, a second brother in 2001 and a third brother in March of this year.

I’ve noticed that the mind kind of tricks us into thinking they are still alive and we just haven’t seen them for a while. I think it’s a way to give us time to accept that they are gone and/or learn to live without them.

[–]BanditWifey03 75 points76 points  (8 children)

My brother died very unexpectedly 14 years ago on the 14th. It was the first time I didn't sob till my head hurt and my eyes were swollen. I actually almost forgot until about 6 pm and I checked fb. I had spoken about it a few days prior with my mom. It still kills me when I think he might like something and I can never know. To grieve is to have loved. Best wishes to you.

[–]beneye 70 points71 points  (0 children)

But your brain can't process the reality that none of this will ever happen again. Final.

Shit. So sorry

[–]dracona 40 points41 points  (5 children)

Agreed. Every loss changes you. 25 years later I still think to share something with my mum. Then I remember she isn't here.

[–]der6892 15 points16 points  (1 child)

I love you, stranger. I know this feel.

[–]Longirl 99 points100 points  (4 children)

I saw the same recently on fb, a friends mum died of cancer and when she announced it she finished with ‘she was my mum’. It’s so simple but what more needs to be said? I’ve had a lump in my throat over it for weeks.

[–]Daveoss 199 points200 points  (2 children)

I shielded your grandson, I was ready to lay my life down without hesitation..

That one hits just as hard.

[–]fazelanvari 51 points52 points  (1 child)

Yeah. You can even sense the writer's emotion.

[–]Daveoss 66 points67 points  (0 children)

THATS IT!!!

That's exactly what I was feeling reading it and couldn't pin point the feeling till you said that.

In the imagining of the situation it was the same feeling I pictured myself having knowing his mother was struggling for life "This Child WILL make it no matter what I have to do even if it means I dont." Was the only thing I could imagine myself saying.

[–]grzzlybr 112 points113 points  (13 children)

The murder of Stephen Lawrence is a story that most people in the UK would have heard hundreds of times on the news and would probably be able to tell you snippets of information about it. But reading Reni Eddo-Lodge's book she describes how Stephen "died in the street, alone", and that really hit me hard.

Yes it was a hideous racially motivated attack, but he also died scared and alone in the middle of the road. As a parent I can't imagine much worse than knowing your child's last moments might have been lonely.

[–]ItGetsAwkward 44 points45 points  (3 children)

Here's a link for all the other non UK people to read about him. Let the anger begin. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Stephen_Lawrence

[–]haifonly 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'm in the US and I do not believe I know his story but I'm going to look him up now in remembrance. Thank you for sharing this.

[–]Carb_Lover01 95 points96 points  (1 child)

That’s the line that choked me up.

[–]hob-goblin1 208 points209 points  (27 children)

Good daily reminder that most people in the world are good.

[–]fastermouse 212 points213 points  (23 children)

A reminder that firemen rank at the top of that list.

[–]stressaway366 37 points38 points  (0 children)

There's a reason nobody ever wrote a song called Fuck the fire department.

Except some dickhead did after this wrote went viral but the point still stands.

[–]thisisthewell 19 points20 points  (2 children)

*firefighters

medic who wrote that card is not a man

[–]jedipony1 11 points12 points  (9 children)

I mean I met a Firefighter earlier who thinks California deserves to burn, so not all are good

[–]cornflower4 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It’s nice to read about good people in these dark times. This made my day; both sad and uplifting.

[–]RaidensReturn 134 points135 points  (1 child)

I teared up a bit reading this. My 9-year-old daughter is lying next to me reading a book. Knowing there are people out there looking out for us fills me with hope. I’m glad the kid survived in this case. I am sad for the mom of course, but children are innocent. There’s a special place in hell for the people that hurt kids.

[–]ancientflowers 35 points36 points  (1 child)

Neither was I. I need to get off reddit for a few hours. I need to think.

[–]definitely_shopped 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No joke. You know that feeling where you start to choke up and your throat feels like it's out of place by several latitudes but you have no idea how to correct it? It's been a solid two minutes and the sensation isn't going away.

[–]Here4TheMaps 4314 points4315 points  (516 children)

Oh my God... I have no words for any of this. If the police haven't caught them yet, I hope they do and the bastard gets what they deserve.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 5901 points5902 points 2 (444 children)

They caught the shooter the next morning. He was an ex of my sister.

[–]Here4TheMaps 2373 points2374 points  (44 children)

Wow. So sorry for your loss.

[–]nicktheking92 1032 points1033 points  (259 children)

What a sick fucking psycho. Was the kid his, too?

[–]Cadence_828[S] 1069 points1070 points  (240 children)

No, it wasn’t. He does have a 3 year old, though.

[–]tekhnomancer 57 points58 points  (2 children)

Not anymore he doesn't. Repugnant scum.

[–]JaceUpMySleeve 342 points343 points  (11 children)

A psycho might try to take the life of an ex lover, but to target the child... that’s beyond psychotic , that is a damn monster. It’s beyond sick. I hope the sister rests on peace, I wish the kid a quick recovery and I hope that monster rots.

[–]HalfcockHorner 34 points35 points  (5 children)

"Psycho" means psychopathic in this sense. Psychosis is very different.

[–]Xlaythe 30 points31 points  (4 children)

This was the comment i was tempted to make. Psychosis is delusions, hallucinations.... etc. Psychopathic is the devoid of empathy one

[–]justingolden21 42 points43 points  (5 children)

I was gonna comment I feel like in these shooting cases it's always something like this, almost never just a random shooter, unless it's a public thing.

[–]invigokate 37 points38 points  (4 children)

It feels It's almost always the husband/boyfriend/ex

[–]FumeShroomian 219 points220 points  (101 children)

Im so sorry 😔 pos men who kill their exes/partners deserve forever prison sentences.

[–]satansheat 43 points44 points  (11 children)

It’s sad that it’s not a rare thing. It’s why most times a women goes missing or dies they look at the ex’s first. It also seems like it’s not even a issue with just America either. It’s a probably all over the world besides places that allow you to treated women as properly already. It’s messed up.

[–]GarlicBreathFTW 45 points46 points  (10 children)

It is indeed all over the world. Women are murdered (Editing out "almost exclusively") significantly more often than men by exes, current partners, or a guy they rejected in some way. Cases where men murder their whole family and then take their own lives are almost viewed as something "normal", and invariably followed up by media interviews in the neighbourhood where someone says "I can't believe it, he seemed like a good man and a pillar of the community" . No mate, he was a mass murderer.

[–]TheOneAboveAll0 21 points22 points  (51 children)

POS anyone, not just men, who kill their exes or partners deserve a loong prison sentence

[–]skullsoldier464 80 points81 points  (9 children)

what gifts did he get

[–]Cadence_828[S] 416 points417 points  (6 children)

A bike and Spider-Man helmet, and a firefighter costume set!

[–]skullsoldier464 141 points142 points  (5 children)

wow cool... besides your family is there anything else I can pray for you for

[–]Cadence_828[S] 251 points252 points  (3 children)

I appreciate the offer, my friend, but I think praying for my family is all I could ask ❤️

[–]crapeescape 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I just want to say I’m so sorry. ❤️

[–]hickgorilla 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for all of your family. Xo

[–]acujen 160 points161 points  (37 children)

Obviously someone she knew. Women are overwhelmingly killed by ex boyfriends and husbands.

[–]XillaFarris 88 points89 points  (35 children)

As they say, a restraining order is only a piece of paper. 😔

[–]soulwrangler 28 points29 points  (4 children)

And depending on the man, that piece of paper is useless and possibly more dangerous. They help the cops and the prosecutor, not the victim. Escape, distance and protection. Womens shelters are much better equipped to handle the situation.

[–]RAMB0NER 17 points18 points  (26 children)

If it’s to the point where a restraining order is filed, buy a firearm to concealed carry; might save your life.

[–]Antagonistic_Alien 59 points60 points  (31 children)

People who hurt children should never be shown an ounce of sympathy or mercy. They should be punished in the harshest way possible.

[–]King_of_the_Dot 27 points28 points  (24 children)

One of Lavayean Satanism's 'commandments' is ''Do not harm little children.'' Even Satanists understand this insanity.

If you would like to read more about Lavayean Satanism then check out the wiki https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/LaVeyan_Satanism. The part of Satanism that doesn't believe in actual Satan. It's one of the only logical religions I consider subscribing to.

[–]BleLLL 44 points45 points  (12 children)

Even Satanists understand this insanity.

If you acknowledge that it's one of the logical religions, then why would you preface it with that?

[–]inuvash255 27 points28 points  (4 children)

Because Satanists get a bad rap, especially Levayean Satanists.

[–]King_of_the_Dot 11 points12 points  (6 children)

How nutty are the rest of the fucking religions?

Edit: They all are. You don't need books written by others to tell you what's right and wrong. It's innate, until unlearned.

[–]whateverandamen 1494 points1495 points  (35 children)

I am so sorry for your loss.

[–]_merikaninjunwarrior 1677 points1678 points  (34 children)

this first responder must be going thru hell no matter how much he is comforted by others. when i lost my 14 y.o. nephew one year ago, the guy who found him(a c.o. coming from work), tried so desperately to do CPR and call the cops at the same time while out of breath and still pumping, was devastated and let it out to us how bad he felt.

i still see him in town and ask him how he is doing, and that we all still very much love him, and that he can stop by and visit anytime. i will never forget him for that, and wish him the best.. really.

[–]pinklavalamp 372 points373 points  (13 children)

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. If you don’t mind sharing more, what was your nephew’s name? What was he like? Were you the cool aunt/uncle?

[–]_merikaninjunwarrior 387 points388 points  (12 children)

we will just call him "d.K."(his initials).. and he was very much into sports and played youth basketball and football each year for the city(he loved it). was a larry fitzgerald fan and the cardinals/suns. yes i was the cool musician uncle.

he was a very good friend, and we didn't know how much until his friends wanted to be a part of his services and were. they shared stories all night, and his death would not have been as easy to make it through without those stories of how much they loved him, and how much he tried to be a best friend to all of them.

he was a musician since 4 when he got his first drumset and never stopped. he played percussion and a few on drums with us, was in band on sax, and we were teaching him guitar before he passed. we all miss tf out of him, espcially his cousins and friends. his friends still come to all the little things we have done(cultural things/his birthday/and first year memorial).

it is so lovely to see that from these set of kids. thanks for wondering btw.

[–]JPMosh710 172 points173 points  (1 child)

Gonna raise one tonight in memory of your nephew and the great dude he sounded like he was thank you for sharing this.

[–]_merikaninjunwarrior 87 points88 points  (0 children)

right along side you, man. thanks.

[–]pinklavalamp 37 points38 points  (1 child)

He sounds like he was a great person to know. Thank you for sharing him with us. He legacy lives strong and proud in your words.

[–]redvelvetdreams 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and keeping your nephew’s memory alive.

[–]CucumberCanon 20 points21 points  (1 child)

This made me quite emotional. It's been a really long time since I felt like crying man. Here have this free award, hope you and your family are doing well.

[–]purpleboxkite 80 points81 points  (1 child)

I see the wife of a man who had a heart attack and I along side another spent ages working him to try keep him there enough for when the Ambos got there. Sadly he passed.

What really fucked me up with it all, was she just sat there in someone's arms just silently sobbing. Then as they got there and took over for us, she came over and comforted US. He had a terminal condition, one he may of recovered from this from, tho sadly he could t be revived. All she cared about was thanking us for trying and telling us even if he died, we did everything.

I always have a smile and a wave for her whenever I see her, I'll never ever forget the sound of her voice in that moment tho. She was accepting of what was happening, sad but accepting.

[–]DottyOrange 57 points58 points  (4 children)

CPR is traumatizing. I had to administer it to my mother when I found her dead. Dragging her into the floor as my dad did chest compressions and I breathed air into her completely hysterical I knew the second I touched her she was beyond saving. I could taste the death on her. My father refused to stop. I got up after a few minutes and went downstairs and out the front door to show the EMs inside. I’m pretty sure I was in shock. I never saw her again, I couldn’t. The worst part was when they told my dad there was nothing to be done, I will NEVER forget his scream and when they put her in a body bag to take her out of the house. I couldn’t watch I went in our kitchen and screamed so I couldn’t hear the sound of what was happening. I have really bad PTSD from that whole experience. I feel bad for anyone who has to administer CPR it’s so hard to do especially to a loved one or child. I’m so sorry for your loss, I don’t know how to deal with mine. I pray your family is doing ok.

[–]stopeverythingpls 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. That takes a lot of courage to post. I hope things are going well for you now. I know a loss like that is hurts way beyond imagination, especially seeing it firsthand. Know that there are people that you can talk with, stick with, and communicate your troubles with.

[–]Cecil4029 31 points32 points  (6 children)

I still think of the 911 operator of when I found my mom after she shot herself. She did not hold up well under the circumstances, but she held up enough to help me get through it until the ambulance and police made it there.

[–]apugcalledlibbs 24 points25 points  (4 children)

My mom passed in her sleep. I found her. The operator who picked up my 911 call - I don’t remember at all, but I wish I could call and apologize for the screaming hysterics

[–]horriblekittens 29 points30 points  (1 child)

Paramedic. You don't need to apologize for anything. I guarantee you they understand and they wanted to cry with you.

[–]greenappletw 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think about the 911 operator after my sibling's attempt too. She kept me calm but was clearly affected, which I was surprised me at the time. It was nice to have some empathy.

Sorry for your loss ❤

[–]havereddit 1214 points1215 points  (43 children)

I am simply amazed that someone "just doing their job" would take the time to do this. This totally humanizes the 'job' that first responders do, and also clearly shows that they think about their calls long after they are over.

[–]CR303 635 points636 points  (33 children)

Yes they do. First responders have a 5x greater chance of suicide from ptsd than a military veteran. I am so grateful for them and what they have to deal with.

[–]heirbagger 665 points666 points  (26 children)

My husband is a firefighter, and I can always tell if he’s had a bad call. Thankfully he tells me we’ll talk, he just needs a few days, and he’s always followed through.

Also his first chief was at his academy graduation, sought me out, handed me his card, and told me “If he stops sleeping, starts drinking too much, stops engaging, you call me. We’ll help him.”

I honestly don’t know the point of my comment, but I just wanted to say all of that. He’s been a firefighter for 3 years, and I can count on both hands how many times we had to sit down and talk about various calls he went on that he couldn’t shake. A few of them, he still hasn’t.

So remember to thank your firefighters for what they do, and ask for a tour of the truck. They’d be more than happy to let you climb about. It’s a highlight of their day, I promise.

[–]serrvals 109 points110 points  (0 children)

And thank you to their families - you sacrifice a lot and it allows them to do this extremely important work. Thank you.

[–]Legitimate_Status 71 points72 points  (13 children)

How do firefighters prefer to be acknowledged? Are they allowed to accept baked goods? Gift cards? Cards? Flowers? Letters?

We have a station right down the street from us and I’d love to give them some appreciation esp during this COVID time.

[–]GotWerewolf 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I don’t know for sure what your station would prefer but pizza is always welcome. It’s easy to take to go, stays good at room temp, enough to share, etc

[–]horriblekittens 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Food is always a hit, but even a card of acknowledgement is always treasured.

[–]havereddit 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I hope that letters like this help first responders to cope with what they see and deal with.

[–]nightpanda893 46 points47 points  (1 child)

Reading this I wonder if it was actually therapeutic for the writer as well to write the message and send that card. The way they went over what happened step by step in the card makes me feel like it may have been somewhat cathartic for them.

[–]_Misconception_ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’ve worked as an EMT for 5 years and I remember all the bad calls from my first day to now. You can never truly get rid of them, it’s best to learn and become a better person and responder.

[–]Malcovis 992 points993 points  (18 children)

“I was ready to lay down my life ...”. “I shielded him”

This (wo)man is a true, honest to God, hero.

Edit: correction . Woman is a hero

[–]Cadence_828[S] 759 points760 points  (6 children)

Woman, actually. But yes. She is a hero.

[–]Malcovis 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Thank you . God bless

[–]shaftautopump 56 points57 points  (3 children)

It's funny. People talk shit all the time and self aggrandise, but you know from reading those couple of lines - she had made a choice in that moment and was 100% going to follow through.

Hold your family close!

Consider visiting the firehouse at a later date with your nephew, I think it'd be helpful in the healing on both sides.

[–]Snakebones 175 points176 points  (9 children)

I could tell it was a woman once I saw the handwriting. Too magnificent and consistent lol

[–]najus107d 19 points20 points  (4 children)

Yeah, somehow i got the same vibe as well. We men are just too messy. She is a hero and hope the best for OP's family.

[–]Snakebones 46 points47 points  (3 children)

I’ve also just seen numerous girls with this exact handwriting style in middle school. Pretty unmistakeable.

[–]T1M0rtal 489 points490 points  (21 children)

What a wonderful card to receive at a hard time, my condolences to you and your family.

Out of curiosity what were the gifts? I presume they were Spiderman related?! Hope your nephew enjoys them regardless and they help make him smile.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 848 points849 points  (20 children)

They were a new bike and Spider-Man helmet, and a firefighter costume set! He has been wearing the hat and badge all night!

[–]pinklavalamp 255 points256 points  (17 children)

Out of curiosity, how old is your nephew?

[–]Cadence_828[S] 502 points503 points  (16 children)

He is 4.

[–]UndiscoveredUser 312 points313 points  (1 child)

My heart... I'm so deeply sorry for your loss.

[–]Fake_Statistics_ 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Right? It’s so awful..I can’t imagine. Bless them.

[–]GriffyGruffy 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I will be praying for this little boy who lost his Mommy, so horribly. I hope he is surrounded by love in the many hard years ahead.

[–]Retrac752 55 points56 points  (3 children)

As a father of a 3 year old myself, I cried when I read that the son drew pictures in the stretcher, and I cried right here.

[–]Cantforgetthat 14 points15 points  (2 children)

Ever since having a kid i cant help but cry at the mere mention of kids suffering. I am pudding right now reading this thread.

[–]1_UpvoteGiver 17 points18 points  (2 children)

God i cant imagine being 4 and told your mommy isnt coming back. I wish you all the best and hope you all make it through this tragic time.

[–]gabsiela 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Oh gosh. My son is 4. I can't even imagine.

[–]heirbagger 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Piggy backing here just to say that once your nephew is well enough, roll up to the department that answered the call with your nephew. It would be cathartic for everyone plus he would get to shoot the water canon and maybe even hold a hose. ;)

So much love to all y’all during this super shitty time. I hope your nephew recovers quickly. ❤️

[–]MatsuoManh 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Awesome!

[–]ancientflowers 362 points363 points  (7 children)

Man. I'm a dad. I'm a Dad of a 5 year old. That's hard to read. That's hard all around.

But that's hopeful. I hope you have a good weekend.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 531 points532 points  (6 children)

My nephew is 4. I raised him until age 3. I basically got a phone call that my child had been shot and my sister killed. It was definitely the most terrifying night of my life.

[–]ancientflowers 136 points137 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. My sister helped raise my son. From when he was an infant until he was a toddler, she was as much, if not more, of a parent to my son. I don't know what to say. I wish you the best, and I love wish you to know that random people appreciate you. I do. I do a lot. Have a great weekend. And thank you for the smile.

[–]valetas 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry for your loss OP. Im glad your nephew is safe now. This made me cry. My boy is 4 years old and my heart is breaking for your baby. I cannot imagine what he is going through rn. What you all are going through.

[–]waddupitselena 149 points150 points  (2 children)

I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad there are still good people in the world not only life savers (those first responders obviously are)but people just capable of compassion for others. My condolences.❤

[–]misterrandom1 31 points32 points  (1 child)

Yeah these are the first responders I want coming for me or my family when needed. Hopefully it never is and especially under such awful circumstances. But those are the moments when you see who the good guys are.

[–]HauntedCoffeeCup 124 points125 points  (1 child)

Well I’m crying now.

[–]UpUpDnDnLRLRBAstart 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this was the kind of cry where the tears fell before your brain could even fully process what you were reading. Profoundly sad situation to peek into.

[–]DriftingAway99 119 points120 points  (1 child)

Give your nephew a big hug for me.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

You got it ❤️

[–]Jimballer 96 points97 points  (5 children)

Wish more people shared good stories about first responders. Sorry for your loss but glad you shared how much it meant to you and that they do care about the people they serve.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 205 points206 points  (1 child)

The night it happened, all I could think was that I didn’t want my sister to die alone. I’m just grateful to this paramedic that she didn’t.

[–]UndiscoveredUser 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the small mercies are the only ones we have. ((hugs)) if you'd like them. I'm glad she wasn't alone too. And that she hopefully knew her son was safe...

[–]Fake_Statistics_ 88 points89 points  (6 children)

What a terrible thing to have happen...sounds like the first responder was an angel that night.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 77 points78 points  (5 children)

Yes, she very much so was

[–]katievsbubbles 15 points16 points  (4 children)

Is there anyway we can donate something spiderman related for him. I'd love to be able to!

Heck lets get Tom Holland involved to do a zoom call or something.

Edit - i have messaged op who has said that they arent comfortable giving out their address details which is understandable. And sad.

[–]RoofChawer 58 points59 points  (2 children)

I see you’re still replying to people, I just wanna say sorry for your loss life will get better bro.. my thoughts and prayers to your family nobody deserves to go through this

[–]Cadence_828[S] 69 points70 points  (1 child)

Thank you ❤️ I’m mostly liking comments unless someone asks a specific question. I’m so grateful for all the well wishes and condolences, but there are so many comments that I can’t get to them all.

[–]theerowantree 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, this broke my heart

[–]RememberThisHouse 51 points52 points  (1 child)

This world can be so fucking dark sometimes, that someone has to write a letter like that.

[–]Jenjofred 41 points42 points  (0 children)

But they did write it and that's the light in the darkness, thankfully.

[–]Available-Rhubarb116 41 points42 points  (59 children)

Am I the only one who thought that that is super weird?

like part of it is nice and then the more than half of it is "I did this and this and this, and I would have even done this, I'm so fucking awesome I'm a god damn saint"

that was such a weird read. I can not even imagine the type of person who sends that letter as written.

nice sentiment I think but execution was sloppy. and they sound like a total narcisist.

[–]AHayes36 61 points62 points  (12 children)

You may not be the only one, but I think you’re reading into them considering themselves “a god damn saint” and the narcissist bit.

As someone who as lost a brother (single car accident), a half sister (ran over and killed by her husband), my godmom who had breast cancer (but died suddenly after treatment began from a brain aneurysm), plus many others Ive loved..... I can say that for myself, I needed to know exactly what those last moments were like. What did others see that I didn’t. Many people look for a way to justify certain situations even when they are usually the most logical thinking person you know. Maybe the family didn’t know details, maybe hearing from someone who was right there at the end gives them comfort. It would be horrible not knowing for sure if people were rushing around the child or actually treating him like family too.

Now, on the other side, I’m a former FF/Medic that became a nurse to work strictly flight care and/or trauma.... Ive been that person with the child. I was the flight nurse when our unit was called in for my brother. I arrived on scene not knowing it was him. That showed me a lot of things from both perspectives, and I feel comfort in knowing that absolutely every single possible thing was done to save his life. I won’t share about my other pts, but this type of tragedy rattles every person it touches. The medic who wrote this will remember this call, this family for the rest of her life. I’m sure she wanted to make sure the family knew they tried, and did everything they could.

Just, what if, this card and the gifts for the boy were a beginning of therapeutic healing between everyone that this awful tragedy affected?

[–]CrayolaS7 25 points26 points  (4 children)

I think you’re reading it wrong. It sounds like they were traumatised by that call out and writing what transpired or how you’re feeling can be very therapeutic when you’re dealing with shit like that.

[–]AHayes36 20 points21 points  (1 child)

I see many of you dragging the Medic because she wrote “she was willing to lay down her life for his”, “be a martyr”, and all that.

The family may have been told that Police deemed the scene no longer safe even after FF/Medics were inside. So maybe her saying that about giving her life for his, was meant to be more of a comfort that HAD the shooter returned that she would have done everything possible to protect him. Right after that she says that she took the first chance to get him to safety so the family understands how the call played out.

I see a lot of you are just cynical folks. Many of you have never had to endure either side of this type of tragedy. Although I disagree with those talking shit about the OP or responding Medic, I really hope you never have to.

Dragging the OP that just lost a sister, and a Medic on a crew that saw that scene first hand is just shameful.

[–]StarAxe 9 points10 points  (4 children)

Yes, it's very weird without context. It's about the paramedic, not the patient.
Here is who each sentence is about:
We know...
our minds...
We wanted...
I responded...
I grabbed...
I stayed...
She was...
I prayed...
I shielded...
I [am ready to be a martyr] (very weird to say unprompted)...
I took...
I transported...
I treated...
He stayed...
I learned...
We wanted...

It would make more sense if there was some question as to whether the paramedic had done enough, thus prompting this self-centred exposition.

[–]icecoldfairy 9 points10 points  (2 children)

"I shielded him." "I was ready to lay down my life." ...okay.

[–]SylentEcho24 36 points37 points  (1 child)

Well I cried....

[–]Cadence_828[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Me, too

[–]mossbeezy 42 points43 points  (2 children)

I’m a fireman who is at work crying after reading this. Prayers are with all involved. May you all find peace.

[–]77BabyGirl 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all that you do to protect others.

[–]IdontOpenEnvelopes 28 points29 points  (2 children)

Sorry for your loss and the tragedy that befell your family. No one should go through this. The First responders are grieving your loss as well. Stop by their station when ready and have hugs with all. You all share a unique bond now, grieving together will be beneficial to healing.

[–]Cadence_828[S] 100 points101 points  (1 child)

We actually went to the station today, that is when they gave us the card and gave my nephew some gifts from the team. The paramedic who wrote this card made it very clear to us that she counts us as family now ❤️

[–]alreadydeadinisde 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family.

[–]Scarletmittens 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Amber is an amazing new medic! I'm a nurse in the ATL area and I love her so much!

[–]RedwineDarkcoco 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I don't have the words to express the sorrow I feel on hearing of the loss and trauma your family has experienced. I hope you can begin the healing process soon. Hold each other close.

[–]angerpillow 22 points23 points  (0 children)

More than just an EMT, a guardian angel. A real hero.

[–]_ptokraft 19 points20 points  (0 children)

To read the line “she was not alone” was heartbreaking, but also soothing in a sense. I hope it makes you feel better to know that your sister passed in the presence of someone who genuinely cared about her life.

I’m very sorry for your loss. RIP to your sister. And I’m glad your nephew is able to make a full recovery. I’m sending prayers and love to you and your family ❤️.

[–]kdubstep 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just brutal and tragic. It’s lovely that there are still people in the world who through their deeds try to balance and offset the illness in the world that your family were shot.

[–]ImReallySeriousMan 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Holy shit.

My 4 year old son is in the bath tub and my wife is playing with him up there while I'm preparing breakfast. Just wanted to check reddit while waiting for the water to boil.

Life is strange.

I'm so sorry for your loss and his as well, of course.

I lost my mother as a teenager in very traumatic circumstances, and if it's any consolation the whole "unreal feeling" fades away over time and your life begins again.

Everything that is so alarmingly not normal right now will become the new normal. There will be grief and tears and hurting, but there will also be life and laughter and love.

This feels like an end but it is a part of your story of life and not the end.

Also, there is plenty of time to heal, so please spend the time necessary and do it right. Don't rush it. Seek therapy if you can. It will help you.

Sending you all the best wishes from Denmark.

[–]oohkt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is... wow. I wanted to comment because it deserves a million comments and attention, but I can't put into words how I feel.

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm feeling all these feelings.

[–]AppleMtnCupcakeKid 13 points14 points  (2 children)

If you don't mind me asking, what was the situation that the paramedics got there and then the situation was no longer safe? How were they able to get to your loved ones at all and then it not be safe?

[–]Cadence_828[S] 43 points44 points  (1 child)

The shooter left when he ran out of bullets, and shortly afterwards the paramedics arrived. I’m guessing the situation was deemed no longer safe because the shooter hadn’t been caught and could possibly have returned.

[–]AppleMtnCupcakeKid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Okay. Thank you for explaining.

[–]Beerkewler2020 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What a horrible tragedy! Hats off to the first responders who went above and beyond....

[–]Fabius3DPrinting 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As a paramedic, the biggest responsibility you will ever have is to be there for someone when they draw their last breathe. You carry those calls with you forever, they're always there. You go from tragedy to tragedy, but even in those you find solace in helping people. People ask me how many people I've saved, and I don't really remember in the 12+ years I did it. I only remember the ones I couldn't. I'm sorry your sister is gone. Please respond to the Lt if you feel you are strong enough. They would like to hear from you and open a line of communication so they can help.

I don't cry often, but I've felt what this medic feels too many goddamn times. The violence humans do to each other is unspeakable, the PTSD, the emotional closure and hurt, you never get closure. Please reach out to the medic, they just want to help now because their life changed forever too, they're opening a line of communication to see if it's okay for them to make sure that child is safe. Once agian, I'm sorry for your families loss. I just know how this medic feels.

[–]MoffieHanson 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Man that sucks.. my prayers for your family asswell. Rest in peace and wish for a good recovery for the son.

[–]perkypancakes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh my! This is so tragic and tough. My heart feels for the los your family endured. It’s stories like these that make me want to do better and find ways to show compassion to others. May your sister Rest In Peace and your family strengthens their spirits.

[–]LolaLaMafiosa[🍰] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

holy shit. I was legit in a happy mood and then I started reading your post and starting bawling in .5 seconds.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. im praying for you and your entire family. those firemen (and firewomen?) are so incredibly amazing... what heros. many hugs to you from me.

[–]teddirubskin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My deepest condolences to you and your family. So thoughtful and kind of the first responders to reach out to your mother.

[–]spiderinside 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is so beautiful and horrible at the same time. Please know there are people sending you love from everywhere. So sorry yet grateful your nephew made it.

[–]KENPACHI-KANIIN 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Such a pretty planet. Such an ugly world

[–]thesofaslug 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work in EMS, almost every call sticks with us. We too feel four each patient we come in contact with. I am so happy that you got some amazing medics to treat your family. I also am terribly sorry for your loss. I hope that you find peace and comfort knowing that I have never met you, but love you conditionally.