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How did you realise your toxic qualities and how did you overcome them? by justanygirl20 in AskWomen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex left me withouth closure. I've been realizing all of my toxic qualities ever since. I did not overcome them yet, but I am fully aware of them.

What did you learn from your first girlfriend/boyfriend? by Departure_Jaded in AskReddit

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't cheat. Ever. Under any circumstance. You can loose the most important person in the world for it and you can't ever forgive yourself.

How do you kiss someone? by FirstAidKit_Alf in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't start off with a tongue! Just lips first ... a few soft kisses just on the lips, let her lean in more... then slowly introduce the tongue, just a bit of it. She will almost certanly want more and will start being more passionate and then use the full tongue. But not all the time. Also, you have to "stop" for a break first. Look her in the eyes, put your palm on the side of her face, touching the hair a bit ... and them go for it again.

My girlfriend of 2 years left me and immediately started seeing someone else, and I have realised all mistakes I have been doing during the relationship. How can I get her back? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Vertigo-21 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

True. I agree, I don't want to be stuck. I have started improving already and when I do, I get this rush od excitement that makes me want to go to her place and show her how fucking awesome I'm becoming. I know it's stupid but it's just how I feel when I achieve something great now and I am learning from my mistakes ...

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting point. Thank you for your perspective, I agree about her being young and being a kid ... We'll see what happens and I will keep on working on myself as hard as I possibly can.

Would you rather travel forward or backward in time? by phatebz in WouldYouRather

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd rather travel to the past, never make the mistakes I've made + use the knowledge of the future to have really comfortable life. I would marry the girl of my dreams, drive my dream car, do just the things I love ...

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. And yes I agree, girls will find someone better. Now, I could argue that the point of a relationship is to get through hard shit together but she's 19 so I understand that she was confused AF. I will follow your 1 steps for sure. Thank you for this. I do however keep on hoping that she actually will come back one day ... The idea of loosing her for life is still killing me.

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. I think the reason it all happened was me not being the best version of myself and like you said, I have paid the price. It hurts A LOT. It hurts every minute of every day ... But yes, this is a sign that I must change myself and start becoming a better person. What she did was not cool but I didn't own her and we were not married so it makes sense, that she choose someone who was his best self over me. I just really loved her and I miss her every. single. day. No matter what I do, I wake up crying and missing her. She really did mean the World to me, but I was in a really bad place and shit hit the fan. She was worth being with. I still believe that someday, when I do get my shit together ... I'll find her again. But no one knows, maybe she will already be taken by someone else. I must take responsibility, like you said and be responsible for myself first. Thank you again for taking the time and writing this.

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. You're absolutely right. I don't imagine him going on here whining. And I certanly don't own her. I am just in really bad plac right now, so I posted this here ...

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was so fucking stupid. Wtf is wrong with me. But time to get my shit togethwr

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I never got a chance to say my piece. But I feel like whatever text I send her, it won't matter cause she's dating him already.

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I did believe her, since she was always really honest with me.

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess! Thanks! I've been thinking of going to a therapist but I didn't think about apps about therapy. Any good ones you reccomend?

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, I wasn't being a true confident guy for the past few months, which is what started to bother her

How do I (M21) survive my girlfriend (F19) leaving me for another more successfull guy? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Vertigo-21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is exactly what happened. AND her family and this guy's family have actually been "family friends" for a few years. Tho I don't know if she ever saw this guy in the past already...